The one that got away- just texted me. Text back?
March 15, 2013 in Advice about Relationships
Hey guysneedhelp, here’s my situation. I’m engaged and the wedding is next summer. I got a text earlier today from my ex girlfriend, who to me has always been the one that got away. I haven’t heard from this chick in 5 years. I have thought about her every day since then. We broke up because of something stupid, we were worried things were moving too fast and that we were too young to get so serious, so we cooled it down, mostly her idea. I dated others, she dated others, and we never got back to each other.
Out of nowhere shes back and texting me. I want to text back or is it a bad idea?
at least see what she wants guy
I have a rule for myself: If you broke up, there’s a reason and don’t get back together… However, this sounds like a different situation.
If you marry your fiancee without pursuing this other person, how will you feel in the long run? Can you see yourself resenting your fiancee for not being being your ex? Resenting yourself for committing when you had the option for this other person? If you leave your fiancee and things don’t work out with your ex, will you feel like you wasted everything? How would your fiancee feel if she knew that you were texting your ex?
There are so many variables. This is a hard one… And I’m mildly biased because I’m currently going through a divorce, so there you go.
Figure out best case, worst case, and most probable scenarios and decide if it’s worth the risk of destroying a future marriage. Obviously (hopefully) you love the woman you’re with right now, so would it be worth putting that in jeopardy?
Best of luck, man. Make sure you’re happy and that you can live with the repercussions of your decision.
Good advice for him. I gave u a thumbs up chickie
Dude, i would text her, if she’s the one that got away, what if she wanted to get back together? If she doesn’t then stick with what you got and be grateful you prick your commited to this girl, its your “EX” girlfriend for a reason schmuck
Just DONT TEXT HER, and everything will be fine, dont open pandoras box!
very good advice read alexander pushkin’s ‘ I loved You .”
If you want to marry this girl don’t text back!