Dated my friends wife 18 yrs ago. He has cheated abused and don’t keep jobs. I’m got married 18 yrs ago. But is wife and I always have seen each other at family gatherings. And I have loved her but I kept it contained. Till recently we are friends on FB. And she reached out to me bout how unhappy she is. And I been unhappy in my marriage for yrs but been holding on. So we just started talking bout each others situations. And she tells me that she’s loved me since we were together 18 yrs ago. And my heart dropped cause I have to. Now what??? She wants out of her relationship and I def want out of mine. But we both know my friend/her husband will go crazy. Not to mention he’s gonna hate. Me. So do you go where the heart steers-me. So I need some advise.
Make sure you really like her and not just a memory of the past. When we are young we feel those love feelings soo much stronger then the adult versions of ourselves do. You may be just feeling an old memory.. But if you feel confident that yoru feelings are genuine go for it! Don’t be miserable! You have a right to seek happiness, its ok to be selfish when it comes to your own life and pursuit of happiness…!! Others will have to make peace. good luck x
Ty beth for the advise. I really am in love with her. But my friend found out this past fri. And he lost his mind and got himself in trouble. And got locked up. Now she’s really guilting herself. And they have kids and the kids like me but he might go away for 10 years. So now she’s not talking to me cause she said I’m a distraction. And she’s gotta focus on keeping her kids father out of jail. So I guess I’m done already. And can I ask your age Beth ??
Well he pulled a gun on her. And pointed at her scared enough that she thought he was gonna do something. So she called the cops. Now she guilting herself. Cause if she wasn’t talking to me this would have never happen. Idk it’s a mess.
Yes they are Tina. You know how hard it is to cross that line. To find true happiness and love. And then you do. And it ends up like this. Wow I’m do depressed she had devastated. Me. Thanks for listening and responding helps to talk about it.
Dated my friends wife 18 yrs ago. He has cheated abused and don’t keep jobs. I’m got married 18 yrs ago. But is wife and I always have seen each other at family gatherings. And I have loved her but I kept it contained. Till recently we are friends on FB. And she reached out to me bout how unhappy she is. And I been unhappy in my marriage for yrs but been holding on. So we just started talking bout each others situations. And she tells me that she’s loved me since we were together 18 yrs ago. And my heart dropped cause I have to. Now what??? She wants out of her relationship and I def want out of mine. But we both know my friend/her husband will go crazy. Not to mention he’s gonna hate. Me. So do you go where the heart steers-me. So I need some advise.
Make sure you really like her and not just a memory of the past. When we are young we feel those love feelings soo much stronger then the adult versions of ourselves do. You may be just feeling an old memory.. But if you feel confident that yoru feelings are genuine go for it! Don’t be miserable! You have a right to seek happiness, its ok to be selfish when it comes to your own life and pursuit of happiness…!! Others will have to make peace. good luck x
Ty beth for the advise. I really am in love with her. But my friend found out this past fri. And he lost his mind and got himself in trouble. And got locked up. Now she’s really guilting herself. And they have kids and the kids like me but he might go away for 10 years. So now she’s not talking to me cause she said I’m a distraction. And she’s gotta focus on keeping her kids father out of jail. So I guess I’m done already. And can I ask your age Beth ??
Sounds like jail might be a good place for this guy- hang in there. Is he violent?
Well he pulled a gun on her. And pointed at her scared enough that she thought he was gonna do something. So she called the cops. Now she guilting herself. Cause if she wasn’t talking to me this would have never happen. Idk it’s a mess.
I’m sorry to hear this..these things are ugly
Yes they are Tina. You know how hard it is to cross that line. To find true happiness and love. And then you do. And it ends up like this. Wow I’m do depressed she had devastated. Me. Thanks for listening and responding helps to talk about it.